I get asked for dating and romance advice often. Young ladies (and some not so young) seek out my experience and authority.
Many women have this vision of a perfect man. You want some essential qualities like honesty, integrity, humor, loyalty, and a good work ethic. You want someone with adoring eyes that are only for you.
Forget the rest. The exterior, you can shape and mold.
If you don't like his hair, cajole him into a new style.
Think his beard would look better trimmed into a Van Dyke? Tell him how sexy you know he'd be with that new look.
Is he looking a bit tubby lately? Send him out to walk the dogs and feed him more vegetables and lean meats. As his waistline shrinks, that's the time to heap on the praise. Let him think he's irresistible.
Don't sweat the small stuff. If the foundation is solid, that's all that matters. Us ladies like to spruce things up. Consider your man a bland room that you're revamping to your liking.